Saying No

Saying No

By H4O Founder, Spencer Dusebout

I don’t know about you, but I often have a hard time saying no. In college I really had a hard time saying no. I didn’t want to miss out on anything.

Here’s the thing. Saying “yes” to somebody or to some opportunity, means we are by definition saying “no” to somebody else or to some other opportunity.

Saying “yes” to going out with friends likely means we are saying “no” to getting a good night’s sleep and perhaps a productive morning.

Saying “yes” to volunteering at a local organization means saying “no” to spending that time on your studies, work, etc.

So how do we say no?

First, we must realize any decision we make is both a yes and a no. We must take the extra 30 seconds to think – “If I say yes here, what am I saying no to and is it worth it?”

Second, if we are not sure we need to think of our goals. Taking a job in another city means you may lose touch with friends, but it also means you may advance your career. You must ask yourself: “Which is a greater priority?”

We can’t have our cake and eat it too. Something always have to give – we can’t make everyone happy.

So have the cake or eat it, just take the time to thoughtfully consider the implications of the decision.